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I will not shy away from giving you advice where it’s needed. However, I’m not shy to leave you, to step away when I see you influenced or influencing that which is bad. I have a tendency to invite my readers to board my train of thought by exercising a monotonous regularity every time. Start a trend and it will develop into a habit, but this time it isn’t out of habit, it’s out of despair; this time it’s a different sweat.

Uncovering a formula that incorporates a balance of perspective in a world where if you’re too pleasant it will eat you up, and if you’re frightful it will spit you out, unfolded into a tiresome adventure (or something of the sort). A means to put an end to the snags in the blueprint. To obtain a chain of solutions, the first step was to highlight the soaring indistinguishable issues that have persistently been a source of distraction for all too long.

I sought it best to put together a list of the subject areas that have been scrutinized in MaariyaThinks so far:

  • Contretemps– Judgement vs. observation
  • Marriage– History of marriage vs. the current trend
  • Ego– Body, mind, soul and religion
  • Fickle friend– Sacrifice
  • Tech addict– Technology vs. 21st Century
  • I do not have a title– Reality vs. Dreams
  • Word– Inadequacy of words?
  • Influenced– Truth
  • Forgive– Forgiveness vs. Justice
  • 01/01/2016– Desires, needs and frustrations
  • Happy Holidays– Attitude vs. change
  • Closure– Perspective vs. Will to truth
  • 14/12/2015– Happiness?
  • December– Change
  • End of 2014?– The future

I expect that you may have reached at the same destination. Regardless, I insist on drawing you a map.Real life is not one dimensional. As individuals, we find ourselves being pulled in many directions by myriad internal and external forces. In a society, the complexity increases manifold as these forces intersect in complex ways. But how do you view your position? How far do you abuse your freedom of choice?

To officially conclude MaariyaThinks; yesterday we debated about your actions, we pointed the finger at you, we thought you were wrong when we weren’t right, we forgot what was important for you and what is important for our souls; but each time God helped me through it, through the doors of religion (Islam) we found our answers.

Remember… ‘Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines!’ – Robery H. Schuller.   Like the lines on this page you can’t see, that make reading this text a lot easier.

“You can’t control how other people receive your energy. Anything you do or say gets filtered through the lens of whatever they are going through at the moment, which is not about you. Just keep doing your thing with as much integrity and love as possible.” Nanea Hoffman –


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“You were born together, and together you shall be forever more. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you” –Khahlil Gibran 

The thing is, I’m unsure on what I should focus on regarding marriage. My aim is to capture its beauty, not with a hidden agenda to persuade my readers, but a blueprint that entails the development and purpose of it- it shouldn’t take long. I’m going to say this just once though, religion is essentially a mode of actual living therefore it is the only serious way of handling reality. Marriage (wiki) is a socially recognised legal union between spouses, it establishes rights and obligations between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws, as well as society in general. For Sir Roland Wilson; ‘marriage is a contract for the purpose of legalising sexual intercourse and the procreation of children’.

The development of marriage is a matter of historical interest, originating from irregular and marital unions which ultimately gave way to elopement with consent. Bare in mind though, the transition from the sacramental indissolubility of marriage to the treatment of marriage as a civil institution is a modern idea.

Forget ancient IndiaGreece, Rome, Germany and the other countless countries that can be mentioned here that outline their institutions of buying females to serve as slaves and concubines. It wasn’t pleasant back in those days; we’ve come a long way since then thanks to the Abrahamic religions. They deserve an applause, because their scriptures introduced and preached a union between a man and women before God, giving women status, equality and security. Religion altered the notion that a woman was like an acquisition of a thing, for example in Islam dowry was introduced by Prophet Muhammed (pbuh), the system was not a new idea exclusive to Muslims, but the advantages of incorporating such a custom within marriage only reinforced good will for both participants. The more we study the system of marriage we further realise how unique of a system to happiness it evidently becomes. Forget the hurdles we may come to face, they merely provide pressure for people to grow up.

In Islam marriage is considered to be the stronghold of chastity (Quran 4:24). By way of example, you need to familiarise yourself with the following Islamic injunction which states, ‘children should be married off as soon as they attain puberty’. However, the mad race for making money and obtaining a degree has relegated this injunction to the background, to the extent where to fulfil sexual desires unlawful means are perforce replacing lawful means. It’s fair to argue and practice your stance on the suitable age for marriage, we’re educated abundantly to decide for ourselves when the time is right for us to do so. What’s the problem? It’s clear as crystal, you simply cannot cool down sexual desires with B.As, M.As, PhDs or with any amount of money. The burden of unlawful acts lies both on the defaulters and the parents, for the parent is responsible for the marriage of their offspring.

Look at it this way; man and woman indulge in sexual lust without marriage, but this kind of love is not real love, but a liaison for sexual satisfaction which is designated as love. When the satisfaction has been obtained or conversely when the bid to obtain satisfaction fails, the liaison is broken. There is neither love nor affection. Both are consigned to limbo. The marriage-bond on the other hand is not transitory, its offer and acceptance are exchanged and the compact scaled for life-long partnership. You see marriage does not simply satisfy physical desires, it elevates the position of the man-he becomes head of a household- and the woman- she becomes the mistress of a home. 

I’m sure we are all aware of the common debates that effortless arise when it comes to the topic of marriage, and Muslims are no exception. Today’s society may find this talk distasteful, because they think ‘settling down’ marks the end of a fun life, they rather go on endless dates with their boyfriends/girlfriends, move in together and even start a family because they say that there isn’t enough money in the bank . How could that possibly be better than what marriage offers?  

They tell you not to get attached, they say now it’s the right time.They both forget that their ‘attachment only reduces marriage to a quest for safety, security, and compensation for childhood disappointments’ (Weintraub:2012)

After all it is an ancient axiom that “truth is bitter”, Gibran can explain the bitterness; ‘your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul. If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction’.  

“Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts” -Khahlil Gibran

Gibran (1923) The Prophet 

Muhammed-Ullah (2000) Woman in Islamic Sharia

Weintraub (2012) Psychology Today


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It’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Western thought idealizes the ego as the thinking, feeling and acting subject that is conscious of itself, it’s responsible for reality testing and provides a sense of personal identity. All that said, let this western definition melt in the ocean. I want to lift the curtain, let me explain the true significance of the term ego. Bring it on the stage.

The real metaphysical definition of Ego that is of concern here is the I in ego. As in the ego man, who by reason of his divinity makes and remakes as he wills. In this lie his greatest strength and his greatest weakness.

Maariya thinks similar to Muhammad Allama Iqbal (1877/1938). 

Part 1- Ego reveals itself as part of our mental states. For example, the mental state can not exist in isolation, and so mental states intertwine with one another and that is what we call the mind. Mental unity is absolutely unique of course, it does not concern itself with material, distance, time, conscious or the unconsciousness (previously mentioned in regard to I do not have a title‘ and 01/01/2016‘). 

To sum up; ego is not space-bound as the body is space-bound, mental and physical events are both in time, however the ego takes no notice of this.

-So would it be fair to suggest that true time duration belongs to the ego alone?

Part 2–  A second characteristic of the ego has to be its essential privacy which reveals the uniqueness of every ego. So my desire for something is my own, its satisfaction means private enjoyment. My satisfactions are my own and they are unique. They’re an anomaly to society, and that bothers me.

In short; pleasures, pains and desires form a part of the private ego alone. Thus your ‘recognition’ of places/people refers itself to your past experience- not the past experience of another ego. This unique interrelation of our mental state which we express by ‘I’ opens the door to the problem of psychology…

-What is the nature of ‘I’?

According to the beloved Nietzsche, man has become the kind of being that negotiates its environment by asking questions about it- in terms of knowledge and truth. BUT this ego is called upon to live in a complex environment and cannot maintain a system which delivers assurance to the behavior of things around it. This environment is a system and not a friend of the nature of Reality. So the ego understands and masters its environment through which it amplifies its freedom.

-So how does man guide and direct his ego with regard to his freedom?

I guess how we put this ego to use is what makes every single one of us unique. I guess it’s how we are taught to use our free will. I suppose each and every experience is nothing but our reaction to it. I suppose I should refer back to the set teachings I was taught to marry and that will be the key to my success.

So if we are saying that the ego directs us to make distinctions so then what gives importance to our personal opinions then what guides the ego? The ego of itself is possessed of nothing. It is a mere ignorant child of innocence floating in the Mind of Being, but through the door of its consciousness must pass all the treasures of God.

Yet we know that the only thing which distinguishes the people is righteousness:

“And We did certainly give Moses the Torah and followed up after him with messengers. And We gave Jesus, the son of Mary, clear proofs and supported him with the Pure Spirit. But is it [not] that every time a messenger came to you, [O Children of Israel], with what your souls did not desire, you were arrogant? And a party [of messengers] you denied and another party you killed.” -Holy Quran 2:87

It’s not how we deal with our life, it’s how we shape our mind in regard to the family we are born into. What we become from then on is a mind dedicated to the  will to truth, will to knowledge, will to power, will to love, will to happiness, a will to complete satisfaction.

Ask me what the problem is.

This will was never meant for us, it was something given to us in order to test us. Why else do you think we weren’t born equals but are taught that we are. Beings with their egos are the most powerful of life- second best to aliens if you bring them into the picture of course. 

You know what makes it all so beautiful… The Qur’an and The Hadith. Stories that entail seamless words of wisdom. Learn from them and you will ease your mind, take only the best from your conscious and tie it into your unconscious.

BUT I mustn’t be oblivious to balance, priority, right, wrong, truth and everything else Islam can describe and explain better than my thinking. 
So selfless I shall be, balance will coincide with my priorities which will reflect Islamic principles and from then on right will be on the right and wrong will dry out into ashes on the left. 


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