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CONTRETEMPS

The perception of a single meaning is called a conception, the perception of the relation between two is known as a judgement. The first should always be mentioned before the second because it naturally precedes it.

-It is wrong to judge without obtaining initial conception?

Perception is literally what we call time, a method where one moment is compared to another. So time comes to exist as a result of comparisons made between a number of illusions stored in the brain. Therefore time is not an absolute fact but a sort of perception. Einstein sets the mark here, his theory of General Relativity states that “time has no independent existence apart from the order of events by which we measure it”… And that’s all I have to say about that.

I previously cited Nietzsche regarding his argument on the will to truth; ‘… the question as to which perception of the world is correct is quite meaningless’. Due to the uniqueness of every ego, we individually experience the same event differently, each ego takes heed of its own will to truth consciously whilst disregarding the real way of life. You see the brain is real while the mind is not. The mind is the uncontrolled thoughts that evidently spiral into existence from the subconscious. As the brain in used as a tool to recall names, places, numbers and memories; the mind is an obstruction, an aggravation.

I want to speak of choice less awareness, by that I am referring to observation, constant observation of ones self to the state where the mind’s unconscious tendencies wake the conscious. Let’s say that observations of this sort banish attachments. Through choice less awareness we not only become detached, we refrain from labelling any passions or desires (as good or bad), we execute our habitually judgemental self and simply become a witness- standing apart.  The critic, the conscious, the opinionated arrogance to reality no longer needs our companionship. Free we shall be. Widows to our conditioned mind.

Truth is you really are what you think… The EGOistic mind can be easily distracted and engulfed by one state of being. For example, you could influence your mind to focus solely on forgiveness and justice; you do so by engaging your efforts and energy into attaining forgiveness and justice. Or you may chose to focus on your needs and desires; through which your being becomes dedicated to selfishness.

Must it be one or the other? Why can’t we each pick a state that fits in alliance to our ego – but isn’t controlled by our ego – and simply switch to another mode irrespective of time and emotion? Maybe that is what we do, we become governed by a state of our ego, a state that dictates our every action and judgement until we are compiled to switch to another.

What we acknowledge to be is comprised of the judgements made by our mind, but what is the source of our conceptions? The answer is simple, our perceptions are based on previous observations or pre-conditioned experiences or the beliefs we hold. We feel how we feel because of what we have previously experienced, we see what we chose to see, we hear what we’re used to hearing because it’s what we’ve been taught, it’s what we know… and the list goes on. Change what you see, change what you listen to, change who you spend your time with and you will see the change within you, it’s as simple as that (if you chose to).

 

 

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Marriage

“You were born together, and together you shall be forever more. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you” –Khahlil Gibran 

The thing is, I’m unsure on what I should focus on regarding marriage. My aim is to capture its beauty, not with a hidden agenda to persuade my readers, but a blueprint that entails the development and purpose of it- it shouldn’t take long. I’m going to say this just once though, religion is essentially a mode of actual living therefore it is the only serious way of handling reality. Marriage (wiki) is a socially recognised legal union between spouses, it establishes rights and obligations between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws, as well as society in general. For Sir Roland Wilson; ‘marriage is a contract for the purpose of legalising sexual intercourse and the procreation of children’.

The development of marriage is a matter of historical interest, originating from irregular and marital unions which ultimately gave way to elopement with consent. Bare in mind though, the transition from the sacramental indissolubility of marriage to the treatment of marriage as a civil institution is a modern idea.

Forget ancient IndiaGreece, Rome, Germany and the other countless countries that can be mentioned here that outline their institutions of buying females to serve as slaves and concubines. It wasn’t pleasant back in those days; we’ve come a long way since then thanks to the Abrahamic religions. They deserve an applause, because their scriptures introduced and preached a union between a man and women before God, giving women status, equality and security. Religion altered the notion that a woman was like an acquisition of a thing, for example in Islam dowry was introduced by Prophet Muhammed (pbuh), the system was not a new idea exclusive to Muslims, but the advantages of incorporating such a custom within marriage only reinforced good will for both participants. The more we study the system of marriage we further realise how unique of a system to happiness it evidently becomes. Forget the hurdles we may come to face, they merely provide pressure for people to grow up.

In Islam marriage is considered to be the stronghold of chastity (Quran 4:24). By way of example, you need to familiarise yourself with the following Islamic injunction which states, ‘children should be married off as soon as they attain puberty’. However, the mad race for making money and obtaining a degree has relegated this injunction to the background, to the extent where to fulfil sexual desires unlawful means are perforce replacing lawful means. It’s fair to argue and practice your stance on the suitable age for marriage, we’re educated abundantly to decide for ourselves when the time is right for us to do so. What’s the problem? It’s clear as crystal, you simply cannot cool down sexual desires with B.As, M.As, PhDs or with any amount of money. The burden of unlawful acts lies both on the defaulters and the parents, for the parent is responsible for the marriage of their offspring.

Look at it this way; man and woman indulge in sexual lust without marriage, but this kind of love is not real love, but a liaison for sexual satisfaction which is designated as love. When the satisfaction has been obtained or conversely when the bid to obtain satisfaction fails, the liaison is broken. There is neither love nor affection. Both are consigned to limbo. The marriage-bond on the other hand is not transitory, its offer and acceptance are exchanged and the compact scaled for life-long partnership. You see marriage does not simply satisfy physical desires, it elevates the position of the man-he becomes head of a household- and the woman- she becomes the mistress of a home. 

I’m sure we are all aware of the common debates that effortless arise when it comes to the topic of marriage, and Muslims are no exception. Today’s society may find this talk distasteful, because they think ‘settling down’ marks the end of a fun life, they rather go on endless dates with their boyfriends/girlfriends, move in together and even start a family because they say that there isn’t enough money in the bank . How could that possibly be better than what marriage offers?  

They tell you not to get attached, they say now it’s the right time.They both forget that their ‘attachment only reduces marriage to a quest for safety, security, and compensation for childhood disappointments’ (Weintraub:2012)

After all it is an ancient axiom that “truth is bitter”, Gibran can explain the bitterness; ‘your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafaring soul. If either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction’.  

“Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts” -Khahlil Gibran

Gibran (1923) The Prophet 

Muhammed-Ullah (2000) Woman in Islamic Sharia

Weintraub (2012) Psychology Today

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Fickle Friend

Have you ever wondered why you’ve stopped doing that certain thing you’ve always done as far back as you can remember? Let me give an example; you ritually watch television every evening before you go to bed, suddenly for no apparent reason in this current climate and the seasons that follow you religiously obliterate your evening television exercise. Have you ever questioned if -for the sake of the aforementioned example-this change or perhaps this permanent exchange has in one form or another benefited you or influenced the total negative? The devil’s in the detail, pay heed and let’s dig.

What are your priorities? What do you sacrifice? What motivates the reasoning behind your choices ? What of the sacrifices you make when you comprise for the sake of priority and loyalty? Do these sacrifices actually suffice as sacrifices? As far as dictionary.com is concerned there is no real guideline as to what must come first in order of preference, it’s all down to you. Sophrosyne; why cut out when we can simply cut down?

Sacrifice: the surrender or destruction of something prized or desirable for the sake of something considered as having a higher or more pressing claim. 

A quick get away may not be the answer to your prayers, but it most certainly will help. We’ve all been acquainted with that uninvited consciousness, the one where it all goes amiss at the same one time. You unknowingly yearn for guidance, AKA a change of perspective during such a peculiar period, yet your subconscious argues otherwise… ignore it.

Help doesn’t follow you, so ask for it, neither does it come in the form of customer service. Think of it as a challenge, a deadline, a meeting, a presentation, its all make or break no matter what the matter is. The solution of the problem is the problem. Take the positive from every experience, assess the present and focus on the future. A problem will only distract you as much as you let it, the evidence is all in your head, take a look.

“You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you.” ~ Josh Ship

Find people who relate to your perspective in life, or stick with people with an opposite outlook and you will find your eventual demise, the proof’s in their fragrance. But there are always two sides to a story, instant dismissal of someone that doesn’t match your train of thought is not the point, exchanging good with them may open doors.  You may not be able to change ones perspective as their experience of life will inevitably differ from yours, you need to adjust to it in order to gain a friendship, an understanding, a relationship, the adjusting is what I like to call sacrifice. I pray the person is worthy of your sacrifice because it isn’t easy to gamble that sort of loyalty for the sake of another, be advised it demands acknowledging.  Experience isn’t to blame, nor is my perspective, neither is yours, it’s just the will that may be absent in your/their actions. Trust and loyalty, keep it safe, keep it hidden, use it, give it and take it.

I never really understood the meaning behind ‘what are friends for‘; a remark my close friends have said to me over the years. I am proud to share that I have mastered the reasoning behind this statement. From today onwards I will say it to you. Don’t feel bad if people remember you only when they need you, feel privileged that you are a candle that comes to their mind when there is darkness.

Be careful of your words, they may not carry as much weight as your actions, but they carry your image when you’re not here. Be wise in your decisions, look to yourself for optimism. Remember “Every positive value has its price in negative terms… the genius of Einstein leads to Hiroshima.” ― Pablo Picasso

 

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Influenced

Spoken words live until they are forgotten.

So write, write for immortality. 

Truth

As the insane man himself once argued; concepts arise as abstractions of individual experiences. Therefore, all concepts arise from ‘the equation of unequal things’ (On Truth and Lie). Thus, truth in other words is linked to its productions.

‘… in short, a sum of human relations which have been poetically and rhetorically intensified, transferred, and embellished, and which, after long usage, seem to a people to be fixed, canonical, and binding. TRUTHS ARE ILLUSIONS WHICH WE HAVE FORGOTTEN ARE ILLUSIONS… coins that have lost their embossing and are now considered as metal and no longer as coins’ (On Truth and Lie).

So there you have it, the problem of truth is enshrined in the way it is mishandled. The insane man speaks some real truth if you ask me. Human consciousnesses does not signify an ultimate reality, because we’re both conscious and unconscious. We interpret the world from a perspective we chose to, and so our individual will to truth must be interrogated.

Put me under the spot light. I want to think. Let the wise man rest in peace.                           On one side of the scale there’s truth, on the other there’s perspectives, external and internal factors. Keep the scale equally balanced they said. How can that be possible when your truth is powered by your perspective? How can that be possible when your perspective changes when others dictate it should? Its all will to truth and will to power.

What I’m getting at is if we shared the same perspective, then our truths would be the same and in turn we would have trust (insincere type of trust). Until of course there was a change of perspective from either one of us, then you know what would happen… your truth would become my lies and my lies would become your truth.

Funny isn’t it how I intended to comment on truth and ended up discussing perspective- as ALWAYS.

‘If you all depend on Allah with true reliance, He would certainly give you provision as He gives it to birds who go forth hungry in the morning and return with a full belly at dusk’ (Prophet Muhammad pbuh) [Tirmidhi] 

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Forgive

Practically most of us have been victims of the bitter injustice of wrongdoings. We have all also struggled in a variety of ways to forgive and to obtain forgiveness.

The act of forgiveness isn’t as straight forward and easy as it seems, regardless of who and how one pardons another.  Ultimately the forgiveness I’d like to talk about isn’t the forgiveness from God, but from one person. -Ask me why-

Why?…  For the obvious reason of course;

1) Forgiveness is no longer subjected to the privatisation of religious faith

2) Forgiveness discontinues to be treated as regarding merely interpersonal relationships

And so forgiveness begins to be regarded as a matter of public discourse and practice, a matter that warrants more than the words of God to console the soul, a matter that longs a solution. An absolution that we can see, feel, and hear. Well, that is what we preach, that is what a modern mindset would preach.

‘Forgiveness is an act of undeserved favor, it is morally good, our forgiveness is rooted in Gods forgiveness. Forgive when you are asked to forgive, I know its hard. But you are weak’

Forget the wrong, forget the sin, forget the mistake, forget the pain. Focus on the healing, the reconciliation, the apology, the positive side of things.

There are two ideological differences that inevitably exist. The conservative and the progressive. Let us take the conservative view, lets be traditionalists, lets preserve what we think we know best, leave it up to God. Let us forgive and move on. Or lets take the progressive stand, lets advocate change, lets progress to a better future, lets be ignorant towards the wrongdoers they deserve no pardon, lets ensure the past doesn’t once again become our present.

You can be a person of either of the two ideologies, but which one is the best one? I know which one I’d pick. I refuse to overshadow this post with my personal opinion on forgiveness, I also refuse to give a reason as to why.

‘One “forgives” when revenge is impossible, but as this would be insincere forgiveness, one nurses resentment’ (Nietzsche 1887). Nietzsche’s argument of forgiveness from his writings in Genealogy of Morals and Gay Sciences advocates that to forgive is as if one is to forget the wrong.

Is forgiveness possible without justice?  

 

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01/01/2016

“The world is three days: As for yesterday, it has vanished along with all that was in it. As for tomorrow, you may never see it. As for today, it is yours, so work on it” – Hassan Al-Basri

Are desires, needs, frustrations the same thing? 

Let’s begin by addressing these as separate entities, not because I think they are.
Desire, a longing or a craving for something that brings satisfaction. In simpler terms, a solution for the itch? Usually requiring a quick solution.
Need, plain and simple is a necessary requirement, without which failure is the only option. It’s all obligatory, my duty and responsibility.
In this instance let’s face it, frustration isn’t any different to need, although it signifies the result of failing a necessary need or desire.
I couldn’t tell you if a desire can/should/will be stronger than a need and vice versa. F frustration, attack its roots, it’s the black hole.
I can however comment on the issues that are encompassed within them. It isn’t as deep as it seems. You must delicate what a need is and the reasons for why it’s not a desire, and ensure your priorities work in a manner that best suits and reflects your reasons for this decision.
One should understand the different types of desires they may have and decide if the itch is worthy of a remedy.
 
You could always fuse desire, need and frustration into one category and pretend what you feel in a particular moment demands priority and action.
I want you to think of moments like these
Moments that are not defined by the activities one carries out
Moments that don’t lend themselves to any particular surroundings
Moments that don’t need pretense.
I don’t know if I should or even if I could, but I know that I would
Carve out a moment in time, free from bigotry, safe from any retribution.
A moment free from the restrictions of time.
A second away from my inhibitions, a minute to fulfill my inhibition.
A moment that allows us to fuel the desire, feed the fire, just a moment
Where can I find  just that moment with you, moments like these?
Some call this reckless or immature, but its your choice… Play with the variables.
 
Anyhow, this is what I think.
 
Sometimes I engrave my name on a bench, sit on it, and pretend I knew myself.

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Money Dance

In this current climate

You’re like a fine painting on a wall, I never touch you, yet I gaze at you longingly

And get lost in the translation of you

 

Even though I don’t own you , I own in my head how I interpret you.

 

 

Even though I can’t afford you, I have already mapped out where I would put you in my house.

 

 

Even though you’re a masterpiece, I can still see how I could improve you

and the list goes on

 

But after the museum is closed I still sit in the car park and make space in my boot, always wondering about how I know what life is like without you, but imagine a life where you are there in my boot…

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